Caroline "Carrie" (Salm) Regan

Caroline “Carrie”  Berner Salm Regan 
November 10, 1970 - January 15, 2025

Carrie was taken much too soon after a year and half long fiercely fought battle with glioblastoma. From the beginning of the battle to the very last days, Carrie fought with her own set of weapons - joy, grace, love, concern for others and a wicked sense of humor.  She left the same way she lived – proudly, bravely and with love. Her final breaths were taken at her home in Kittery surrounded by loving family and friends and enveloped in peace. 

Carrie is survived, loved and missed by so many - she was a precious daughter to Joan and Guenther Salm, a cherished sister to Darby and Mark Griffin and an aunt to Darby’s sons and daughter, Hannu Pechukas, Finn Griffin and Cali Rose Griffin. She was a loving wife to Timothy Regan and an adoring mother to Dakota Rose Regan. Much loved by her cousins, Matt and Victoria Wilcox, Sam, Erin and Nico Wilcox as well as her Auntie Annie and Uncle Tom Wilcox. The Regan family loved her from the moment she joined their clan. Tim’s parents, Marilyn and Jim headed the Regans, followed by Kathy and Ben, Jimmy and Mary, Eddie, Richy and Linda, Bobby, Brian and Stacey, Kevin and Jen and Dianne and John and a gorgeous group of 27 Regan nieces and nephews. Among those who will also miss Carrie deeply are her father’s family in Germany - Hans and Gabi Salm, Karina and Patrick Schaupp and Jesse and Manu Sogas and children. And because Carrie was so good at caring, the list of friends who love and miss her is way too long to write but each one has stepped in with acts of love as she so deserved. 

Carrie was born in Port Jefferson, NY and was educated in Stony Brook, LI and Salt Lake City. She graduated from Ossining (NY) High School in 1989 and she graduated with a BA in Communications from Keene State College, NH, in 1993. She received her MA in English as a Second Language from St. Michael’s College, VT. She found her passion as a massage therapist and was gifted in that healing art. Lucky were the clients who felt her touch. 

Carrie and Tim married on a “Heavenly Day” on the 26th of September, 2009, at her beloved family home in Shelter Island, NY. 

Dakota Rose was welcomed on January 24th, 2011, completing their family of three and filling their house in Kittery, ME, with spirit, joy, love and devotion. 

Carrie’s life was filled with a love of adventure, friendship and family. Throughout her bright life, she spent college summers in in Cape Cod, taught children to ski and learned how to two-step in Taos, NM, worked for an Iditarod family in Alaska complete with sled dogs, she rock climbed in Mexico, lived in Portland, OR, went to art openings in San Fran, ran the marathon in Dublin, enjoyed the fruits of Florida with friends, retreats in California with other wellness practitioners, family camping trips, days out at Fort Foster, ME (her happy place) with loved ones, cold water dipping with friends, a precious family holiday in Puerto Rico post-diagnosis, too many concerts, plays and cultural treasures in NYC to name, visiting her German family in Germany, a honeymoon in Italy to the Amalfi coast, Rome and Venice, touched base with each of the kingdoms in the UK - Ireland, Wales, Scotland and England and perhaps her most favorite place throughout her life was time spent with her family at the Umpleby home in Shelter Island. Carrie has been to many places, and she always left them better off than when she found them. Same goes for all the hearts she found along the way. 

Carrie was a magnet for so many wonderful friends and family who were there for her throughout her life and through this wholly unfair illness. Her light lives on in all lucky enough to know and love her. 

Hello family and friends. 

I found a place to host the Celebration this Sunday, February 9th from 3 to 6pm.    Dakota and I need and want this to happen this weekend. "Potluck Style".

Of course we want you all there with us, but we respect your decision if you do not feel comfortable driving. Thank you and lots of love.

First Parish Hall, First Parish Congregational Church, 180 York St., York, Maine.

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